Posted by: AJ the Irish Lass | November 11, 2014

An Awesome Book to Read if You’ve Lost a Loved One

Tear Soup: a Recipe for Healing After Loss by Pat Schweibert is a book I can’t recommend enough. A short, easy read, it has some of the best help for coping after a loss that you’ll find. I’m very grateful to my rector for bringing this book over after a devastating loss in the family.

While some might conclude that it’s a kids’ book because of its pictures and short, easy to read text, it has a lot of “meat” for adults in it, too. Many bereavement books for adults written in chapter format have a lot to get through when you’re not in a position to digest a lot. A short, quick read is good in these situations.

The story follows a woman who makes up a batch of “tear soup” after the loss of a loved one. Because it doesn’t name the person’s relationship to her, it’s easy to adapt the principles in the story to any grief situation. Some of the most important takeaways in this book for me were:

  • The fact that grief is a very personal thing. No two people will have the exact same “recipe” for grief.
  • Understanding the fact that sometimes people don’t know what to say. Some of what comes across as insensitive or trite is just being at a loss for helpful words.
  • It’s not written from a religious perspective, but does address the fact that a person’s faith might be impacted by grief. I feel comfortable recommending this book to both Christians and non-Christians.

There are also helpful discussion questions in the back that you could use as a family or group of friends.


  1. Dear CelticAnglican,

    May the Grace and Peace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with you.
    Hope this message finds you well.

    Wanted to write and see if you would permit me to use some of the material you initially posted in 2001 and reposted in 2007 on High and Low Church.

    As an ordained Episcopal Deacon in the Diocese of Central Florida, I lead a weekly Religious Studies/Chapel at St. Barnabas Episcopal School, in DeLand, FL. I would be very interested in providing your perspective on Low and High Church to the Middle School students, but wanted to first obtain your permission and blessing.

    I can be reached at the following email:

    Look forward to your prayerful response.

    In Christ,

    The Rev. Din Bissoondial
    St. Peter the Fisherman Episcopal Church, New Smyrna Beach, FL.

    • Hi Deacon Bissoondial,

      You have my permission and my blessing. πŸ™‚ If the material appears in print, a link back to the site, is all that you’ll need. Thanks! πŸ™‚

      • Thanks so much. I will list the link back to your site in my preaching notes, which are archived by the school.

        In Christ above all else.

        Rev. Din

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